Opinion

Identity comes from within

Why do you do the things you do?

Media and society today are very good at telling us what is “cool.” What you should buy or what you should wear to stay up to date. Many people nowadays will go out and get that haircut or pierce that place on their body because someone told them they should.

Other people will listen to media today that says you should buy this because it will make you more “hip.” They buy whatever random thing the TV told them to and they will rub it in the “lesser” peoples face to make themselves feel better.

Dr. Seuss knew what he was talking about when he wrote the children’s story about the Star-belly Sneeches. A solicitor, or scam artist, Sylvester McMonkey McBean came to the Sneetches island and told them to have a star on their belly would make them better. The
Sneetches added stars and removed stars until they had no idea who was who.

We can change ourselves so much that once we stop we have no idea who we are anymore. I have personally been in situations where my friends would do the exact same thing. For instance, my friend went out and bought a MacBook Pro and has no idea how to work it. She just bought it because “everyone” else had one.

Who are we changing for? Who are we trying to impress? What is our goal behind the things we do?

Another very common reason why people change who they are is because of their significant other. Back when I had just started high school, I started dating the guy whom I had liked for a few years. I thought he was the greatest thing since sliced bread.

Music, clothing, friends, hair, etc. You name it, I changed it for him. I wanted to be his “perfect” girl. In the end, I lost my boyfriend, my best friend and my identity. I lost sight of what God had in store for me.

Through all of the changes I had made, I wasn’t comfortable being myself, which led to my insecurity. I was so concerned with keeping up appearances that I was jealous, needy, overbearing and emotional. I was that crazy girlfriend that no one wanted to be around.

Changes are good to go through but for the right reasons. You don’t stop drinking solely because your girlfriend wants you to stop. She should be your motivation but you should want to make the change too. That is the only way the change will be a change.

God created us uniquely so why would we want to be anyone else? He wants to take care of our bodies and live out whom He made us to be, His children.

Don’t do things because your friends told you to or that’s what the TV said. Jesus died so that we could be free to be ourselves, not mindless robots.

Why do you do the things you do?